Top tips for first-timers What follows is not a set of rules. Rules about sex are impossible- what should matter is that what you do makes you feel good. And "feeling good" should last past the sex itself - you should not feel anxious afterwards about getting her pregnant or catching some horrible disease, so planning ahead about contraception and safe sex is part of the idea. What time should we have sex? When you have sex doesn't really matter. What should matter instead is that you and your partner have sex when you are both comfortable. Some people prefer to make love at the break of dawn, some in the afternoon sun, some in the darkness of night. More important than time of day is the time you have to spend. Give yourself a lot of time to have sex the first time . A weekend is ideal, but at least the whole day, including sleep time. Should we eat or drink anything before sex? Avoid eating a heavy meal, since that'll just make you sleepy. Eat light, do...